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I'm not sure if anyone here has had this experience. But personally, I have. You know that moment someone confronts you and accuses you of something that you can't disprove so you really have no choice but to go along with it to make the false accusation believable just to get the other person to stop talking about it? I have moments where I don't feel like responding to texts. Sometimes I won't respond for days just because I love my alone time. I'll ignore your calls yes. But days later you confront me and assume the worst about what I may be doing when in fact it was just me ignoring you because I wanted some time to myself. Would you buy that? No of course you wouldn't because you are so insecure if someone doesn't respond in a matter of minutes. I can't be on my phone 24/7 to talk to you at all hours of the day or night. Did you happen to think maybe I was at work? Maybe I was taking a nap? No you assumed I was probably dying in a ditch somewhere. Like chill out man! I just simply didn't feel like talking to you. Stop texting me to death. Stop assuming the worst when someone doesn't respond immediately. Instead of assuming I'm doing something horrible or that I hate you, take a step back and think that maybe you are suffocating me with your insecurities. When you DO find me in person I have to immediately think of an excuse like "oh sorry my phone wasn't working" or "I had to deal with a family emergency sorry" because if I was honest with you, you'd make a huge ass out of me. This is why assuming things is the most toxic thing in life. It's not coincidental why the word is spelled A S S U M E. When you assume things, you make a huge ass out of yourself and I so cut it out! Why must you think if someone doesn't respond immediately that they either hate you or they're dying out in a ditch somewhere?

Sometimes I won't respond for days... Maybe I was taking a nap?

How long are your naps?

Not sure IAN. If it's the weekend and I want to sleep in and get multiple texts from someone in the morning I get pretty annoyed because the last one is usually "where are you?" And in my head I'm like "bitch I was sleepin". But you know if you tell them that, they'll either 1. Not believe you. Or 2. Think you're ignoring them. Texting has become so routine in this society that it's become such a bother to me. Especially dealing with people who constantly text all the time. Back in the 90s we didn't have to deal with this **** but now with the ease of communication people desire more and more attention.

I've never experienced this problem. I just give people a vague excuse and they take it.

[QUOTE="SKELETOR, post: 1622534, member: 35827"]I've never experienced this problem. I just give people a vague excuse and they take it.[/QUOTE]

So you don't get constant texts from people and feel suffocated? You don't get that feeling of someone texting you to death and you just want them to stop so you can have some R&R time?

People can't text me if I don't have an active mobile, which I don't.

[QUOTE="Jesus, post: 1622536, member: 16999"]So you don't get constant texts from people and feel suffocated? You don't get that feeling of someone texting you to death and you just want them to stop so you can have some R&R time?[/QUOTE]
I can't immediately think of any instances like that. But then I guess I'm a college student, so maybe people just assume I'm pretty busy most of the time.

I generally text people back since a simple, courteous "can't talk right now" goes a long way in keeping friends and family from worrying.

Do you understand why this person has insecurities?

A tiny bit of courtesy ("Hey, I'm busy. Chat later.") goes a long way to alleviating the whole other person's concern that something bad/tragic/terrifying happened. Why bother with the courtesies? Because, you know, maybe that person is dealing with something that causes them to be how they are.

Or maybe, you can communicate something like... "Hey, I appreciate that you care for me, but I'm okay. I can't always respond to your texts immediately/same day and will try to respond to important messages quickly. Hope you understand and take care of yourself."